Important conversations that can have the greatest impact are those that people avoid. They may know that the conversation needs to happen, but I hope that someone else will initiate it or think it’s not my job or want to wait until the time is right. They do try to have a conversation, but ignore important issues. The question is; How much talking going on in your organization? And I say, “Create a synergy builds relationships and inspiring results”.
The fact that people are often not aware of what all the talk is going on inside themselves first. In other words, you may think you see people as they are, but in fact you see people like you. This means that powerful conversations can’t happen until we challenge the perception, which we hold about ourselves and other people. Perception is the lens or filters that we see the world over, and everyone has a different set of lenses that they operate from. Real powerful talk may not happen until a person has a certain degree of awareness of who they are, their strengths, weaknesses, values and beliefs because that’s what generates their perception. We often assume that people think the same way we do not see things the same way but it’s never, every person is different and until we challenge our assumptions important conversations may not be completely.
When people are afraid to speak the truth because of the potential negative reaction, or not wanting to hurt someone they stop important conversation going on. When we’re not talking the truth people commonly know it. They feel unfinished and they see the elephant in the room, but do not know how to counter it. Important conversations require training, should not be done on the fly and without introspection, only then we can elephant square in the eye and know how to approach it.
A powerful conversation involves give and takes not one side of the conversation or lecture. Powerful conversations it is possible only when people share equally. Real listening is that you can create a powerful conversation, listen not only to the words that are used, but that does not say, understanding body language and expressions. When we are able to listen to the full we are able to understand and see things through a different set of lenses. Listening to understand builds bridges and the values of the other person.
Powerful conversations can occur in all situations. Supervisor, subordinate reverse their behavior is a great opportunity for a powerful conversation. Powerful conversations involve telling the truth from the heart; they are a direct and care. When we indirectly in our communication we do not have a powerful conversation we find ways to skirt issues and giving more power to the elephant in the room. The only way to solve the problem is to face directly with compassion and understanding.
Real dialogue is a process they are not events, questions left hanging there, they will be completed. That conclusion will often mean a few interviews with the mutual obligations of each person. Real communication cannot occur with only one dialogue, powerful conversations require commitment, commitment to the relationship, and to him. Skills required for a powerful conversation would not happen overnight and must constantly be maintained.